Michelle Obama says her kids were a ‘concession’ she made that derailed her ‘aspirations and dreams’

MICHELLE Obama has admitted that becoming a mother meant she had to make a “concession”, which was abandoning her aspirations and dreams.

In her new Netflix documentary ‘Becoming’, she said she was not ready to have children, and that something “had to give”.

US First Lady Michelle Obama (C) walks with her daughters Malia (L) and Sasha (R) during a visit to the Great Wall
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The former first lady discusses her relationship with Barack, which she says was “all about our equal partnership”.

“If I was going to have a unique voice with this very opinionated man, I had to get myself up and set myself off to a place where I was going to be his equal,” she says.

But she continues to admit that the birth of her two daughters, Malia and Sasha made being Barack’s equal harder.

“The thing that really changed it was the birth of our children. I wasn’t really ready for that. That really made it harder.”

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“Something had to give and it was my aspirations and dreams.

“I made that concession not because he said ‘you have to quit your job’ but it felt like ‘I can’t do all of this so I have to tone down my aspirations, I have to dial it back,’” she says in the documentary.

Michelle and Barack met in 1989 while they were working at a law firm. They married in 1992 and had their first daughter, Malia in 1998.

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Later in the documentary, Michelle explains that the pair are planning to step away from the limelight.

“Barack and I don’t want to be at the forefront of it all forever… not even for much longer,” she said.

The documentary also shows the mother of two being supported by her children while she is signing books at one of her book tours.

She is greeted by Malia, who gushes over her mom’s show. The 20-year-old then says: ‘It’s like, damn. Those eight years weren’t for nothing…People are here because they really believe in hope and love and other people.”

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Addressing Trump’s ascension to president, Michelle reflects on the 2016 moment at the end of the documentary.

“I understand the people who voted for Trump. The people who didn’t vote at all?

“The young people, the women… it’s like man, people think this is a game. It wasn’t just in this election but in every midterm.”

She continued: “Every time Barack didn’t get the congress he needed, that was because our folks didn’t show up. After all that work, they just couldn’t be bothered to vote at all.

“That’s my trauma.”


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